I hate how this has changed her.  And us.  I've know Laura for ten years and dated her for three and now that we're engaged my Laura's gone.  That's enough to throw any man for a loop.  I love her.  I want to marry her.  I want to have kids with her and grow old with her.  But she needs to want that too.  And she needs to want that with me. Does me no good that she listens to and goes along with everything her mother tells her and freezes me out completely.

And don't sit there and judge.  All you women out there have been guilty of this at some point during the wedding process where your guy has had to ride the bench while you plan his future for him.  Does it make me a wuss that I not only want to be involved I want to matter??  What worries me the most is that this new Laura will be the Laura I marry.  And I'm not gonna lie.  I don't like this Laura at all.  And I sure as hell never would have dated someone like her, let alone asked her to marry me. 

Don't get me wrong; I love that she's close with her family.  But you need to draw a line somewhere.  And when you pledge to marry someone you also pledge to create a new family with that person and agree that you will now